I Need Some Space

“it’s not me, it’s you” is the right way to say it! Nah, it’s totally normal that you are going to want some “me” time in a relationship. According to a new study, 31% of wives and 26% of husbands feel like they don’t have enough space.  That’s right, women are more likely to want some space than men. if you aren’t as smooth as me, then you might not know how to ask for it without your significant other getting all OFFENDED. I once broke up with a girl on accident because I said “you know what it is, I just need some space” and she FREAKED out and hung up on me and never called me back. I didn’t want to stop doing the deed, I just wanted some time to relax before I approved an additional charge on my credit card. Some phone sex operators are just so dang clingy. But I have learned from this experience and have come up with some tips on how to get some space and not upset your partner. By “come up with” I mean found an article by Dr. Terri Orbuch who is a psychologist at the University of Michigan. These are her suggestions but since she most likely doesn’t read this blog, I’m going to say they are mine!

#1.)  Don’t just say, “I need space” . . . that’s confusing.  Actually give a specific time, like, “I need the afternoon to myself.”
#2.)  Explain why you’d like some space to be happy, so the other person knows it’s not about them.
#3.)  Don’t be secretive about where you’re going and what you’re doing.
#4.)  Don’t get carried away.  Make sure to also schedule some couple and family time as well.

There you have it! 4 simple steps to save your relationship. Your welcome!

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